“But the words you speak come from the heart—that’s what defiles you. 19 For from the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, all sexual immorality, theft, lying, and slander.” Matthew 5:18-19
The verse above explains the words we speak come from the heart and it is from there that our innermost thoughts, attitudes, ideas, etc. come forth. Jesus explained this to his disciples when they asked what he meant by “it’s not what goes into your mouth that defiles you; you are defiled by the words that come out of your mouth.” Matthew 15:11 The words we say can hurt or heal, depending on its intention. The tongue is a powerful weapon, as James 4 explains.
I never thought swearing was appropriate or stylish, regardless of the situation or context. The English language contains plenty of words that we can use to express ourselves, but when we use such four-letter words excessively, we sound ignorant or uneducated–to an extent (I’m saying you appear to be so when your whole speech is rife with such words. It gives people a negative impression of you; that is, it depends on the people with whom you associate for some find it acceptable; others offensive.) I understand our upbringing shapes us since family and friends influence our behavior and how we talk to one another. I’m not judging any one. I find disgusting the frequency we use such words that was once considered taboo.
I read on the front cover of GQ magazine a snippet about former Disney star Selena Gomez that read: “Selena Gomez, all grown up (and kinda bada**).”Could there not be a more fitting word to describe her development, such as “rebellious,” “roguish,” or my favorite, “hardcore?” Another gripe I have on a headline about Selena: “Meet Selena Fu***ing Gomez.” Why not say, “Meet Selena Gomez?” Concise and to the point. What purpose does it serve to have the “F” word in the title? Why is our language reduced to such words? I was displeased to see such derogatory terms to talk about a celebrity. (Also, I was dismayed to read a quote by Selena which she used the “F” word. Again, I’m not judging her or anyone. Just opining.) GQ was not the sole publication I read today that contained such vulgarity. In an issue of TIME magazine, Jennifer Lawrence praised British singer Adele for her extraordinary talent and generous personality. At the end of the article, she lauded, “Adele is a gift, an international treasure, but she’s also sweet, funny, intelligent, and beautiful…but at the end, she felt the need to call her, “Bit**. Come on! Was that necessary?
34 You brood of snakes! How could evil men like you speak what is good and right? For whatever is in your heart determines what you say. 35 A good person produces good things from the treasury of a good heart, and an evil person produces evil things from the treasury of an evil heart. 36 And I tell you this, you must give an account on judgment day for every idle word you speak. 37 The words you say will either acquit you or condemn you.” Matthew 12:33-37
Our heart reflects our words and it reveals our innermost character. Proverbs 27:17 affirms this: “As a face is reflected in water, so the heart reflects the real person.” It’s equal to a mirror: it reveals your exterior appearance. Likewise, the heart reflects your inside.
The last two sentences in the Matthew verse catch my attention because it tells me I must give an account to God for every idle word I speak. Wow! Imagine every single word we utter God records. This suggests we must be mindful of our words because they will acquit or condemn us. God will judge us by our words and actions because He wants them to reflect His character. Colossians 3:17 instructs, “And whatever you do or say, do it as a representative of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks through him to God the Father.”
Mastered self-control with our words? We haven’t if we don’t control what we say; we must stop and think before speaking or reacting. The tongue can be a powerful muscle as it determines our speech. Our speech controls our life since what we say carries an effect on people. A select few of individuals can use their tongues to form intricate shapes as it twist, bends, curls, flips, and waves.One girl can touch her eye with it! (The Power of the Tongue) What amazes me is people can perform such surprising tricks with their tongue, yet they do not always control the words they say or always reflect on the effect their words carry.
Watch one girl perform impressive tongue tricks: